The key to making love to your wife so she’ll adore you and get pleasure out of pleasing you is simple: make it about her.
Make the effort to ensure that it’s a thrilling experience for her.
Two of the most important tips for pleasing a woman are:
1) Foreplay
2) Afterplay.
I once heard a quote: “A man who engages in foreplay understands sex. A man who engages in afterplay understands love.”
If you want a happy wife and thereby a happy marriage then, you need to understand both sex and love. A wife needs (and deserves) high quality of both.
As for foreplay, it should be your default rule. It doesn’t mean that a woman never wants to skip quickly to sex. Quite the contrary. Women are far more sexual than men often imagine and tend to be very eager for sex if their man has built up their desire for him.
Plan ahead sometimes. Start the seduction outside the bedroom. Tell her what you want to do to her. Tell her what she does to you. Tell her what it’ll be like.
Why? Because for her, love-making isn’t just about the sex. Yes, a woman wants to ravaged and taken sometimes. But she also wants to be seduced.
Seduce her before you even get to the bedroom.
Make it about her.
And here’s the cool part: if your focus is pleasing her, then her focus will be pleasing you.
So when to engage in foreplay and when to go straight for sex? You have two guidelines for that:
1) Make it about her. If you’re not sure what I mean, make sure you’ve read The Key to Making Love.
2) Pay attention! If you’re not sure what I mean, make sure you’ve read Sexually Pleasing a Woman.
As for afterplay, it’s really not that hard—don’t freak out! Just gently kiss her for a while and hold her for even longer. This will make her feel loved on an emotional level, not just desired on a physical level. Both are necessary.
If your afterplay heightens her desire, then it may end up being foreplay, instead. All the better…unless you’re exhausted at that point. Then I can’t help you. Sorry.
I have a saying that I tell husbands, “Treat your woman like a queen. But be her king, not her subject (or another queen).” Foreplay can help make you her king. Afterplay will help you make her feel like a queen.
